Are you stuck or are you between chapters?
Have you ever had a feeling that something in your life isn't quite right anymore — but you can't quite put your finger on what needs to change?
You might be functioning perfectly well. Going to work. Looking after everyone. Doing all the things you're supposed to do.
And yet, somewhere underneath it all, there’s a quiet feeling of:
“I don’t think I want to keep doing things this way.”
I think we can be very quick to label this feeling as being stuck.
But sometimes, I wonder if we're not actually stuck at all.
Perhaps we're simply between chapters.
The space between what was and what comes next
There are times in life when an old way of being no longer fits, but the new one hasn't become clear yet.
A relationship may be changing.Your work may no longer feel meaningful.Your children may have grown and your role has shifted.You may have changed, even though your life hasn't caught up with you yet.
This in-between space can feel uncomfortable because we naturally want answers.
Should I stay or go?
What should I do next?
Am I making the right decision?
Why don't I feel happy when everything seems okay?
But sometimes the pressure to find the answer is exactly what makes it harder to hear what we already know.
Instead of asking “What should I do?”
Try asking:
What am I no longer willing to continue?
What feels different in me now?
What am I craving more of?
If I wasn't worried about disappointing anyone, what might I choose?
What does my intuition keep trying to tell me?
You don't necessarily need to make a big decision immediately.
Sometimes clarity comes when we stop trying to solve ourselves and become curious about what is actually happening.
Moving through change
This is a big part of what I love about counselling and coaching.
I don't see my role as telling you what decision to make.
Instead, I help you slow things down enough to understand what is really going on — to explore the patterns, fears and beliefs that may be influencing you, while also listening to your intuition and the deeper parts of yourself that often get drowned out by everyday life.
From there, we can begin to work out what moving forward might actually look like.
Because sometimes the answer isn't to make a dramatic change.
Sometimes it's to make one small, honest change that brings you back into alignment with yourself.
And sometimes, that first step is simply acknowledging:
“Something has changed in me.”
That can be the beginning of a new chapter.
With warmth,
Adria
If this resonates with where you are right now, I currently have space for new counselling clients.
